Tuesday, July 31, 2007

Well hello there!

Thanks to all those who posted harassing comments to remind me how long it's been since I posted!

Things are great here in the land of Griffin. We're all head-over-heals in love with the little guy. He's still a very alert and cheerful baby. He's been sleeping through the night since around two months. Since our last post, he's probably only woken us up once in the night. Of course, I'm still up to pump breast milk each night at around 1:30am (no longer twice during the night.) In the past few days, we've also started changing him and giving him a bottle in the middle of the night. He pretty much sleeps through it, but we were growing concerned that he wasn't getting enough food. We have his 4 month check-up soon, so we'll ask the pediatrician for her recommendation then.

Our schedule is still pretty much the same as it was. Mombi, for her part, is very tired in the evenings because she's such an interactive caregiver. The poor girl actually had a hoarse voice the other day from singing and talking with him so much! For me, the tiredness stems from not getting many breaks. I come home from work and assume baby duties pretty much immediately, until I put him to bed and colapse into sleep myself. I don't mind because I love the time with Griffin, and my day job is much less tiring (most days) than Mombi's is, but it doesn't leave much time for other stuff (including posting on the blog!) It's really horrible and I can't quite believe I'm sharing it, but I've actually gone a full week without a shower a few times. Luckily, I can wear corporate branded baseball caps at the office!

Ah! Griffin is taking a late nap this evening! I think I'll join him!

Sunday, June 24, 2007

2.5 Month Routine

Wow, I'm actually posting! Must be the weekend!

Life is great here in Griffin Land. We've definitely settled into a good routine with him, and we're all very happy most of the time. Our day starts at around 4:30AM, when Mombi gets up to prep for the day. She washes the breast pumps that I've used during the night, and gets Griffin's breakfast ready for him. He usually wakes up between 4:30 and 5:30, and Mombi changes and feeds him and does his morning exercises. Around 6:00 I get up, pump, and start getting ready for work. I leave around 7:10 after some baby cuddles, and Griffin settles down for a morning nap. He usually sleeps for 1-3 hours, and then wakes up hungry again. After that, the day varies depending on how tired he is, but around 5:00PM I return from work. I entertain the babe while Mombi makes dinner, we spend some family time together, and then Mombi heads to bed around 8 or 9. I start Griffin's bedtime routine (clothes/diaper change, swaddle, 4 oz of milk, and snuggle until comatose) around 8:45, and he usually falls asleep right around 9:30. I pump while I watch him on the monitor to see if he loses his pacifier (pluggie) and replace it as necessary, usually one to three times before he's deeply asleep and/or doesn't notice when he's lost it. I finish pumping, wash any pumps and parts that are dirty so that I'll have them ready to go at 12:30 and 3:30, then head to bed. We all sleep through the night (apart from my nighttime pumpings) and then we start all over the next day.

It really is quite a lovely existance. Busy, but so very worth while!

Saturday, June 23, 2007

Video of Griffin

Mombi and Griffin were out playing on the porch this morning, and I couldn't resist grabbing some footage.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dqUMolbEaQE

Enjoy!

Wednesday, June 13, 2007

Baby Exercises

(Written by Mombi)

I usually do these twice a day with Griffin, first thing in the morning right after he’s eaten, and in the evening before Momai gets home from work after he’s eaten then. I do this after he eats so this doubles as help burping and he’s usually more receptive when he’s not hungry.

I like to combine both speech exercises with the physical ones, what we do ties face expression to voice and voice to physical movements. There are two stages I like to call ‘serious’ then ‘silly’ during serious I try to keep my face expressions as I would be speaking to a child trying to not make any funny faces to get his attention; silly time is when we play with our tongues big eyes mouth and raising our voice.

It usually takes anywhere from 10 to 20 min depending on how receptive and tired he is, I can tell if he’s had enough when he ‘fights’ against the muscle movements or starts to look away with disinterest.

After we’re done with serious and silly there is a quick massage of his muscles and joints, this he really enjoys and relaxes him after all the hype of exercise time.

Okay, so the exercises themselves, I don’t do these in any order so I’ll just list what we do during the time.

Big and Small – Laying down in front of you let him grab your thumbs and extend his arms out as wide as you can just stretching like wings and as you do so say biiiiiiiig then bring his hands back together to his chest while you say smaaaaaaaaall. If he resists with one arm just go with it, don’t force it too much.

Tall and Short – Same as Big and Small this time you’re going above his head, then flat down to his sides. With each movement tell him what you’re doing, Tall, then short. I try to not let him rotate his shoulders (in a swim type fasion) because that comes later, I try to encourage him to bend instead of rotate down.

Swim Forward and Backward – Just like a breast stroke you want to rotate his arms (slowly at first until they get used to it) and I like to count to ten, first forward then back. I tell him that we’re going forward then count as we swim, then switch to going back then count.

Left and Right – This is sitting up or laying down and his least favorite exercise because he has a favorite side to lay on. Exorsising his neck and shoulders to look in different directions is the goal, I use my palms on each side of his cheeks and say Left and wiggle my left index finger for a visual and then help him look to the left, I hold his head there for about ten seconds counting to ten slowly. Then do the same to the right and holding his head there for ten seconds.

Up and Down – Same as left and Right, this is a neck exercise and easier than Left and Right. I can usually just cup his chin and help support his head if it wobbles and say Up, and Down holding to a count of ten.

Jump – Now moving to lower body I grab his little feet and make him squat. I try to keep his knees as close together as his diaper and body allows so his body learns that Jump is different than the natural ‘oh, we’re changing the diaper now spread’. So jumping, I make him squat and count to ten then pull down in a mock jump. The holding for count of three feels like a build of energy and encourages him to push. After about 5 weeks he’s starting to push.

Swivel – This is again lower body and centers at the hips, this one is real quick again I say left one two three as I hold, then swivel right one two three as I hold in the other direction. I usually only don’t repeat this one.

Run Forward and Back - Lower body, pretty simple you want to simulate him running in place both forwards and backwards and I count to ten or twenty and at each change I tell him we’re going forward and back.

Now time for Silly time; this he loves and looks forward to and I’ll do with him through out the day. It’s Dancing with him while chanting or singing, My personal favorite happens to be “dance dance dance dance boogie boogie boogie boogie” while I move his arms in the old ‘cabbage patch’ style or just silly moving around. There are no repetitive motions here, just fun movement. I don’t try to stretch his neck or lower body during this time not until he’s sitting up.

Then a massage, it’s more like just squeezing his hands lower and upper arms, while he’s laying down if you roll your fingers over his spine then up to his neck you might giggle at the funny faces they make as they relax.

As Griffin develops more these will change quite a bit I’m sure, but so far I think these exercises will be good for 0 to 4 months (and beyond).

We'll videotape Griffin exercising and post it soon!

Sunday, June 10, 2007

2 months already!

It's absolutely incredible to think that two months have gone by already. I apologize for neglecting the blog, but I'm not sorry for it. It's been very busy around here, with lots of baby stuff and other stuff all happening at once.


By way of making it up to you, here are some photos from the "photo shoot" that I had with Griffin out on the porch this morning!





Monday, May 28, 2007

What was it called?

Mombi and I need your help. We're trying to remember the name of a show that we watched as children, and we're coming up blank. It was a PBS show where a guy would draw illustrations for stories as he told them. The drawings were done in pastels or maybe colored pencils, on colored paper. If you know the name of the show, please let us know. The show inspired our creativity and love of books as kids, and we want to get copies of the episodes to show Griffin when he gets older.

Friday, May 25, 2007

What a day!

It's an amazing day to be a parent!

I know there will be days that Griffin will be frustrated and fussy which in turn will make me frustated and fussy (though I doubt I'll pout as much), but days like this are really just perfect.


Mr. Griffin has been happy all morning, and no doubt he actually slept all though the night, and so did Momai (woot!). We did our exersises and he had a lot of fun and I think he's starting to get the idea that when he makes those sounds when he's happy it matches the laughing sounds I make when he does something funny.

We played with the cat, Basil is our calico cat who is usually very skittish of strangers, but damn she's no stranger to Griffin she layed on him for 9 months and he knows her purr I swear it's like old buddies. They had some play time today when she jumped up into my lap when I was burping him and made sure that his new little blue socks had enough cat hair on them before giving him a head butt on the nose and jumping down.

Then we played with Orange our dog who is wary of Griffin but very protective. I think that is why Orange is so wary is that she knows she's a hell of a lot bigger than little Griffin and he could get hurt easily. Anyway, back to playing Orange nosed Griffin made lots of excited noises and reached out with his little mitted hands and managed to bop the dog a good on in the nose. I think after that they'll be friends for life, Orange is still really careful but I think Griffin proved himself part of the team.

Orange is an amazing dog, she knows what toys she can and can't play with. We've given her lots of stuffed animals to disembowel (after easter sales are great for cheep dog toys, bunny ears rock) but she does not touch Griffin's toys even though Mombi keeps leaving around the stuffed ducks.

We ate lots today in solid chunks, 3 and 4 oz at a time instead of 1 or 2 every hour or so which was nice, and I think makes his little stomach feel much better.

Anyway, lots of rambling but I wanted to share my thoughts of the day and my first week as a stay at home mother.

From a child who refused to play with dolls as a child, hated to play house, refused to be the damsel in distess when we played superheros on the play ground, dislikes housework in general but loves to teach kids I would like to say I think this is going to work. I like being a Lesbian Mom, I feel like something has been completed in my life that I didn't know was missing before.

Tee hee never would have guessed it would have been a little baby Griffin.

Love you Momai and Griffin.

Mombi

Sunday, May 20, 2007

Six Weeks Old!

It's so hard to believe that Griffin is six weeks old already. Where has the time gone?!? Tomorrow morning is my first day back to work. I'm excited and nervous and a tiny bit heartbroken. I think it will all be great, as long as I can stay awake!


Here's a picture of Griffin from earlier today:


Thursday, May 10, 2007

Family Portrait



Finally, a picture of all of us together! This is the first photo of all three of us since I had an oxygen mask on in the hospital!

Saturday, May 05, 2007

Griffin's First Bath

We celebrated Cinco de Mayo with Griffin's first bath. Here are some pictures, plus a bonus video of Griffin making faces in his sleep last night.









Video of Griffin in the tub!

Here's a video of Griffin making faces in his sleep.

Busy, busy, busy!

People are starting to ask if all is well, so I figured I'd better check in to let you all know that things are great. Busy, a bit frentic at times, and sometimes issued when there isn't enough milk (he gets burps from the formula so we're trying to reduce our use of it), but great.


Tomorrow we're going to Nana and Grandpa Jake's house for lunch and an afternoon of visiting with some relatives who are visiting from out of town, including my Aunt Terri and Uncle Jim, and my sister Jeanne, who also hasn't met him yet. We're all excited!


Here are a couple more photos of our little man:


Thursday, April 26, 2007

Taking a moment

Griffin's napping and I'm actually awake, so I figured I'd take the chance to post. Maternity leave is such a blur. I generally have no idea what day it is, and half the time I don't even know if the time on the clock is AM or PM. As tiring and random as it is, I'm thoroughly enjoying myself. I think Mombi and Griffin are, too.

It's so sweet to wake up to Mombi bringing Griffin into our room for a random snuggle when he's fresh and clean from a sponge bath, or when we're playing on his play mat, or just checking out the light fixtures. Watching Mombi talking to him and playing with him is amazing.

I'm doing about half of Griffin's feedings by pumping for Mombi to bottle feed, and half by nursing. He also gets a few ounces a day of formula, since I'm not quite up to speed with him yet after all the formula he got while in the NICU. I've stopped stressing about it, though, so it's all good. Mombi keeps me well fed and rested, and I try to do the same for her. Last night I actually woke up right before my three hour alarm twice in a row, so my body is definitely adjusting to sleeping in short bursts. Thank goodness for that!

We're also making plans for our first big trip with Griffin. A cousin of mine is getting married in Michigan in a month, and we're going to go up for the wedding. (Amanda, are you going to be there? Any othe relatives lurking on the blog?) We're looking forward to showing him off a bit, and seeing everyone. It's been so long since I've seen that side of the family that I'm sure I won't even recognize most of my cousins. There are over 40 cousins on that side of the family, and I'm the oldest, so I won't be able to figure it out easily! I'm sure we'll also have some sort of get-together with the other side of the family while we're in town. It'll be an adventure, to be sure!


Here's a photo I took of Griffin yesterday. Doesn't it make you just want to curl up with him and take a nap?


Wednesday, April 25, 2007

Two Pictures

Nana probably won't want to wear these earrings when we visit in a couple months.




Griffin doesn't cry often, but when he does, watch out!



Monday, April 23, 2007

Happiness is...

...posting a blog (or doing pretty much anything) with a baby sleeping on your chest.

Life is grand. Apart from some sleep deprevation, we're all doing great. The first couple days with Griffin home were definitely rough, particularly in terms of sleep (us not getting enough) and food (me not producing enough) but we seem to be much improved on both fronts. I'm coming to realize just how short a six week maternity leave is, though. He's already over two weeks old! I know that anyone else will laugh to hear it, but he seems so grown up! He had his first well baby visit at 12 days old, and had already gained an inch of length. Wow!

We took him to my brother's house on Saturday for a bar-b-que, and had a great time. They have three little girls, ages 7, 3, and 2. Sydney, the two year old, seemed so tiny and young just a few weeks ago. It's amazing how time and perspective can change so quickly.

I'll post more photos soon, I promise. Right now I've got an adorable baby snoozing on my lap, and the camera is on the other side of the room.

Friday, April 20, 2007

Monday, April 16, 2007

Welcome home, Griffin!

Griffin is finally home with us, and he's doing great! He got a clean bill of health from the neonatologist, with no need for any more special medical attention for his mystery infection. They never did figure out what it was, but his labs look great now. Here are a couple photos from today!









Saturday, April 14, 2007

Mombi Loves Griffin

Mombi spent the day creating a web page to introduce Griffin to our online friends. Even with a "mushy" warning from her before I saw it, I still teared up looking at it. She's so sweet. I love my family, my partner, and our little boy!

Griffin's First Web Site

Check it out!

Monday is our day!

Per the neonatologist, Griffin will be released from care Monday. He'll be getting his last round of antibiotics on Sunday night at 10, but we'll have to wait until the doctor is there the next day in order to do the discharge stuff. It'll be a great one-week gift to all of us to have him home again. As much as I love the staff at the NICU, the trips back and forth to the hospital are getting a bit old!

Wide Eyes

Did we mention that he's a very alert baby?

Thursday, April 12, 2007

Collection of Mental Moments

As the experience of labor begins to fade in my mind, there are moments that remain vivid and strong. What moments were best or worst? Hard to say. The entire experience was so overwhelming that it's nearly impossible to rank them in any sort of specific order. However, there are definitely a few that stand out as top contenders.

The first half hour or so after my water broke were probably the most "fun." I managed to maintain my own calm, and so I was really able to enjoy watching Mombi and my sister and her partner all running around and pulling everything together for the trip to the hospital. There were so many smiles and cases of people running around forgetting what they were supposed to be looking for. It was great fun to watch from my waterproofed spot on the couch.

The span of time when Griffin's heart rate dropped during labor was definitely the scariest, despite the drugs that kept me from total awareness. I remember trying to prepare myself for the possibility that we had come so far only to lose him right then. After hearing that steady doplar beat for so many hours, hearing it get slower and slower was terrifying. Twelve hours and one successful birth later, sleeping off the meds in my recovery room, I kept hearing the doplar in my mind. I woke up with a start several times when I thought I heard it slow down.

The moment that was even better than I dreamed it would be was the first time I looked over and saw Mombi holding Griffin. It gives me tears every time I think about it, and it's not hormones talking. We've been together nearly six years, and for at least five of those years I've been imagining what a great mom she'd be and what it would be like to have kids together. Seeing her with our child, and the pure love and joy she was pouring over him, was indescribaby beautiful.

Here's a bonus shot of my mom hanging out with Griffin in the NICU: